Recently, while on vacation, I had an opportunity to participate in the wonder of nature in a very personal way. The experience caused me to reflect on how focused we humans are on fixing things, situations and sometimes even other people. There are many reasons why this is the case, I have written about them in prior articles and there will be more to come. Today I want to tell you the story of a small Minke Whale I met up close and personal and share a very big lesson she taught me. I hope you find it important and helpful.
“It ought to be commemorated as the day of deliverance, by solemn acts of devotion to God Almighty. It ought to be solemnized with pomp and parade, with shows, games, sports, guns, bells, bonfires, and illuminations, from one end of this continent to the other, from this time forward forevermore.” John Adams (1735–1826)
In 406 BC, Euripides, an ancient Greek dramatist, wrote, “The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are a really wise man.” As I read this quote, I was struck by how relevant this is to our lives today. For the past three plus decades, we have been hearing, reading and learning about work/life balance. Yet, most of us continue to allow outside influences to drive us.
Yesterday was one of those days when I woke up in a mood. You know what I mean, don’t you? You wake up; open your eyes and a general sense of “stop the world I want to get off”, is right there in front of you. You get up; go about your business of getting ready for the day you are already angry about. As you continue to get ready, the angrier you get and frustration begins to build.
Lately I have been listening very carefully when I speak and equally carefully to those who speak to me. One thing I have noticed is how easily words slip out that have no real truth in them. Sometimes, it’s something very simple and sometimes it’s something hugely important. For example, when you see someone and say “Hi, how are you doing?” do you honestly care about how that person is doing or is it just a meaningless greeting that everyone says?”
By the time this article hits the press, the Super Bowl will have been played, the trophy awarded, the hype over, billions of dollars will have exchanged hands, and some proud football player will announce he’s going to Disney World. For sports fans, it’s time to move onto Spring Training and non-sports fans will be happy their Sunday night shows will no longer be delayed. But wait, there’s more to take away from these 6 months of planning, practice, playing, entertaining and feeding the economy.
At the end of each year I seem to notice people saying things like, “I can’t wait till this year ends”! This comment always makes me curious. When I inquire what drives them to make that comment, I rarely ever hear of any significant event. The response is more like, “It’s been a horrible year…” followed by a list of fairly normal life events. Typical issues we all live with all the time. For example – sickness, business/career issues, financial issues, relationship issues, parenting issues and yes even death.
And so, here we find ourselves close to the end of another year. For some, it’s a fiscal year end, for others, mid-term review and correction, and for most a time of holiday celebrations. It is a season of endings and preparing for new beginnings. Any one of those by themselves is quite a load to bear.
There’s a change in the air. Can you feel it? Have you noticed? It’s October, kids are settled in school, businesses are back in full swing, the air will soon be crisper, the sky bluer. The Patriots start a new season and it appears the Red Sox have given us an extended season. It’s a time of transition, new beginnings, and a change in mind set.
As I sit on the shore of Cape Cod Bay writing this article, I am reminded of how complete I feel here. It’s a place in which I feel totally relaxed, there is no chatter going round and round in my head. Normally, I am a person who needs to be doing something. Here I can just be, I can enjoy each moment for what it is. All my senses feel alive here including my intuition. Everything is different in this most gorgeous place. My mind feels open and spacious, creative thoughts emerge and I feel peaceful. It is a place I call my Truro Perspective in reference to its location.